I HAD THOUGHT THAT " GASLIGHTING " WAS A TERM DERIVED FROM THE THEATRICAL USE OF FRIGHTENING BACK LIT SHADOWS

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_play

THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF THE ANCIENT THEATRICAL TECHNIQUE WHICH USES  SHADOWS TO SUGGEST FANTASIES. 

WHEN I GOOGLED THE BEHAVIOR OF PERSONS WHO SCOFFED AT MY ARTISTIC EFFORTS AND MY ECONOMIC AND INFRASTRUCTURE ACHIEVEMENTS I UNEXPECTEDLY DISCOVERED ARTICLES ABOUT "GASLIGHTING". 

I STILL THINK THERE IS AN HISTORICAL "GASLIGHTING" WHERE THE FIRST BRIGHT LIGHTS WERE USED TO CAST THE SHADOWS OF OBJECTS AND ACTORS TO CREATE  IMAGES OF NON EXISTENT MALEVOLENT ENTITIES AND ACTIONS. I ALSO THINK THAT THREATENING AND FRIGHTENING MIGHT BE AN APPROPRIATE DESCRIPTION.

THERE IS A CONTEMPORARY USE OF THE TERM "GASLIGHTING'' AS A PEJORATIVE TO DESCRIBE THE DEFAMING TECHNIQUE WHICH IS ALL TOO EASY TO USE AGAINST ARTISTS AND MUSICIANS. 

IF YOU ARE WHERE YOU LIVED ALL OF YOUR LIFE YOU ARE LESS VULNERABLE IF YOU HAVE THE SUPPORT OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY.

IF YOU MOVE YOU ARE VULNERABLE TO UNFRIENDLY RESIDENTS. 

IF YOUR FAMILY IS TAKEN OVER BY A GROUP OF RELATIVES YOU ARE IN MORE DANGER THAN YOU MIGHT REALIZE. I DID NOT KNOW HOW SERIOUS THAT THE IRRATIONAL IMAGINING COULD BE BECAUSE BASELESS STATEMENTS ARE LIKE SHADOWS ON A SHEET TO LAW OFFICERS MAGNIFIED, MADE TO SEEM REAL, HUGE AND MENACING.

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You, the Gaslighters, are insane and you are damaging liars but  there are lots of psychopaths like you so you think you are OK. Inbox Wed, Jun 2, 8:20 AM (3 days ago) Table of Contents What Is Gaslighting? How It Works Signs to Look For History of the Term Just the lying that you do would qualify you as a nut. What Is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that occurs in abusive relationships. It is an insidious, and sometimes covert, type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality.1 Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to wonder if they are going crazy. I know that you are the crazy one. Gaslighting primarily occurs in dating and married relationships, but it's not uncommon for it to occur in controlling friendships or among family members as well. Toxic people use this type of manipulation to exert power over others in order to manipulate friends, family members, and sometimes even co-workers.2  7 Types of Toxic Friends to Avoid How Gaslighting Works Gaslighting is a technique that undermines your entire perception of reality. When someone is gaslighting you, you often second-guess yourself, your memories, and your perceptions. After communicating with the person gaslighting you, you are left feeling dazed and wondering what is wrong with you.1 Tactics like these can confuse you and cause you to question your sanity. Here's a closer look at how people gaslight others. Lying to You People who engage in gaslighting are habitual and pathological liars. They will blatantly lie to your face and never back down or change their stories, even when you call them out or provide proof of their deception. Lying is the cornerstone of their destructive behavior. Even when you know they are lying, they can be very convincing. In the end, you start to second-guess yourself. Discrediting You Gaslighters spread rumors and gossip about you to others. They may pretend to be worried about you while subtly telling others that you seem emotionally unstable or crazy. Unfortunately, this tactic can be extremely effective and many people side with the abuser or bully without knowing the full story. Additionally, the gaslighter may lie to you and tell you that other people think you are crazy. These people may never say a bad thing about you, but the gaslighter will make every attempt to get you to believe they do. Deflecting Blame When you ask a gaslighter a question or call them out for something they did or said, they may change the subject by asking a question instead of responding to the issue at hand. They may blatantly lie about the situation by saying something like: "You're making things up. That never happened." Minimizing Your Thoughts and Feelings Trivializing your emotions allows the gaslighter to gain power over you. They might make statements like: "Calm down," "You're overreacting," or "Why are you so sensitive?" All of these statements minimize how you're feeling or what you're thinking and communicate that you're wrong. When you deal with someone who never acknowledges your thoughts, your feelings, or your beliefs, you will begin to question them yourself. What's more, you never feel validated or understood, which can be extremely difficult to cope with. Shifting Blame Blame-shifting is another common tactic of gaslighters. Every discussion you have is somehow twisted to where you are to blame for something that occurred. Even when you try to discuss how their behavior makes you feel, they're able to twist the conversation and end up blaming you. In other words, they manipulate the situation in such a way that you end up believing that you are the cause for their bad behavior. They claim that if only you behaved differently, they would not treat you the way that they do. Denying Wrongdoing Bullies and abusers are notorious for denying that they did anything wrong. They do this to avoid taking responsibility for their poor choices. But it also leaves the victim of gaslighting confused and frustrated because there is no acknowledgment of the pain they feel. This denial also makes it very hard for the victim to move on or to heal from the bullying or abusiveness. Using Compassionate Words as Weapons Sometimes when called out or questioned, a gaslighter will use kind and loving words to try to smooth over the situation. They might say something like "You know how much I love you. I would never hurt you on purpose." These words are what you want to hear, but they are not authentic, especially if the same behavior is repeated. When you are dealing with someone who uses gaslighting as a manipulation tool, pay close attention to their actions, not their words. Is this person truly loving, or are they only saying loving things? Twisting and Reframing Conversations Gaslighters typically use this tactic when you are discussing something that happened in the past. For instance, if your partner shoved you against the wall and you are discussing it later, they may twist the story in their favor. They may say you stumbled and they tried to steady you, which in turn caused you to fall into the wall. When stories and memories are constantly retold in the gaslighter's favor, you may begin to doubt your memory of what happened. This confusion or second-guessing on your part is exactly the goal.  Are You Gaslighting Your Kids Without Realizing It? 15 Gaslighting Signs to Look For Being subjected to gaslighting can cause anxiety and depression. It also has been linked to panic attacks and nervous breakdowns. For this reason, it is important to recognize when you're experiencing gaslighting. Ask yourself if any of the following statements ring true. You doubt your feelings and reality. You try to convince yourself that the treatment you receive is not that bad, or that you are too sensitive. You question your judgment and perceptions. You are afraid of speaking up or expressing your emotions. You have learned that sharing your opinion usually makes you feel worse in the end. So you stay silent instead. You feel vulnerable and insecure. You often feel like you “walk on eggshells” around your partner/friend/family member. You also feel on edge and lack self-esteem. You feel alone and powerless. You are convinced that everyone around you thinks you are strange, crazy, or unstable, just like your partner/friend/family member says you are. This makes you feel trapped and isolated. You wonder if you're stupid and crazy. Your partner/friend/family member's words make you feel like you are wrong, inadequate, or insane. Sometimes you even find yourself repeating these statements to yourself. You are disappointed in yourself and who you have become. For instance, you feel like you are weak and passive and that you used to be stronger and more assertive. You feel confused. Your partner/friend/family member's behavior confuses you—with actions that appear like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. You worry that you are too sensitive. Your partner/friend/family member minimizes hurtful behaviors or words by saying “I was just joking" or "You are too sensitive." You have a sense of impending doom. You feel like something terrible is about to happen when you are around your partner/friend/family member. This may include feeling threatened and on edge without knowing why. You spend a lot of time apologizing. You feel the need to apologize all the time for what you do or who you are. You feel inadequate. You feel like you are never “good enough." You try to live up to the expectations and demands of others, even if they are unreasonable. You second-guess yourself. You frequently wonder if you accurately remember the details of past events. You may have even stopped trying to share what you remember for fear that it is wrong. You assume others are disappointed in you. You apologize all the time for what you do or who you are, assuming people are disappointed in you or that you have somehow made a mistake. You wonder what's wrong with you. You wonder if there’s something fundamentally wrong with you. In other words, you worry that you might truly be crazy, neurotic, or “losing it.” You struggle to make decisions because you distrust yourself. You would rather allow your partner/friend/family member to make decisions for you, or avoid decision-making altogether.  Best Online Couples Counseling Programs 2021 History of the Term The term gaslighting comes from the 1938 play by Patrick Hamiltion, known in America as "Angel Street" and later developed into the film "Gas Light" by Alfred Hitchcock.3 In the suspense film, a manipulative husband tries to make his wife think she is losing her mind by making subtle changes in her environment, including slowly and steadily dimming the flame on a gas lamp. Not only does he disrupt her environment and make her believe she is insane, but he also abuses and controls her, cutting her off from family and friends.3 Consequently, the wife is constantly second-guessing herself, her feelings, her perceptions, and her memories. Additionally, she feels neurotic, hypersensitive, and out-of-control, which is the goal of gaslighting—to leave the target feeling off-kilter and unsure of what is true and what isn’t. Because this film was an accurate portrayal of the controlling and toxic actions that manipulative people use, psychologists and counselors began to label this type of emotionally abusive behavior "gaslighting." A Word From Verywell If you identify with any of these signs of gaslighting, it's important that you seek professional help right away. Left unaddressed, gaslighting can take a significant toll on your self-esteem and mental health. Your doctor can recommend a counselor who is equipped to help you process and deal with what is happening to you. In the meantime, remember that you are not to blame for what you are experiencing. The person gaslighting you is making a choice to behave this way. They are responsible for their actions. Nothing you did caused them to make this choice and you won't be able to change what they're doing. But with counseling, you can learn how to make healthy choic

  Links to an article by Health Professionals.

   https://www.verywellmind.com/is-someone-gaslighting-you-4147470#what-is-gaslighting.

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MY WORK AND EXPERIENCE IN VANCOUVER AND MY FAMILY BOORS

 

SOMEHOW I KNEW WHAT I WAS DOING:

I HAPPILY DID ALL OF WHAT I COULD.

I was thinking of what Vancouver was like when I lived there and when I returned to pursue Art, Music and Writing. There were a lot of really cool things going on.

I was there for the Seventies; I had the Advanced Method Jewelry Manufacturing  downtown and the Burr House in Delta  the last half of the Decade. I returned when I could until the later nineties when it was no longer possible at all.

THE ASSIDUOUS PURSUIT OF ART, MUSIC AND WRITING EMPLOYMENT WAS CHARACTERIZED AS INSANE AND THUS COULD POSE A RISK AND BE DANGEROUS: "PLEASE MR POLICEMAN CRUSH MY HUSBAND'S PRETENSIONS TO BEING AN ARTISAN,ARTIST, WRITER AND MUSICIAN, HE'S CRAZY".

IN RESPONSE TO UN-EVIDENCED, IMPROBABLE FALSE ACCUSATION SOOKE RCMP (THERE WAS OFFICER HUDSON FOR WOMAN'S ISSUES) WOULD OVERTLY AND RECORDED IN FILES I HAVE, PLAN TO GET CHARGES LAID AGAINST ME. LETTERS TO POLICE IN VANCOUVER AND VICTORIA  URGE THEM TO "FIND SOMETHING TO CHARGE ME WITH". IF I CAN BE JAILED FOR MORE THAN TWO MONTHS MY WIFE CAN SEIZE AND SELL MY HOUSE. SOOKE RCMP, CRD BY-LAW AND BC SHERIFFS MADE SEVERAL ATTEMPTS TO ACCOMPLISH THIS. 

ONE BECOMES VERY RETICENT TO LEAVE THE HOUSE.

ONE MIGHT TAKE A LOOK AT THE ART, MUSIC AND WRITING AT LINDONCOLLARD.com, blogspot or on You Tube.

It is well known that recovery from injury and brain injury and childhood abuse trauma is facilitated by Art and Music. Being in the familiar happy places helps to heal and reactivate the mind.

HOW COULD PEOPLE WITH NOTHING TO LOSE BY MY DOING MY THING FEEL THEY HAD TO INTERVENE AND BRING MY HAPPY RESTORATIVE TIME TO AN END.

"I AM GOING TO WIPE THE SMILE OFF YOUR FACE" SAID MY EX WIFE AND SHE REACHED OUT TO THE POLICE TO SAY I WAS DISCONTENTED AND DANGEROUS.

WRITING, MUSIC COMPOSITION AND PERFORMANCE WERE CHARACTERIZED AS "HUBRIS" OR EGOMANIA WHEN WHAT IT WAS IS CARPING CRITICS FELT SMALL AND UN-CREATIVE SO THEY WERE ANGRY AT ME.

ALL I HAVE HAD TO WRITE ABOUT IS THE EXCEEDINGLY DIMINISHED EXPERIENCE THAT THE WOMEN WANTED FOR ME.

"Cut him off from his friends," my ex wife said "Lindon needs people". That is a Sociopath's interpretation of my network of acquaintances and associates. Many persons were friends and mutual friends. What is a person or are persons who you would gather with to practice musical skill building or to create new music or to perform in public? We are usually cordial and notice that hundreds of us can work in many different combinations of small ensembles. I think my acquaintances and and associates would be called colleagues without any undue pretension.

Family members led by my Mother, ('' MOTHER FROM HELL", YOUTUBE ) worked to keep me broke, "on payments", my inheritances hidden from me and diverted, converted, the crimes were accomplished by stealing mail. The inheritances were not at all inconsequential and would have really enhanced my experience. Instead I was so broke I could not even afford restaurant meals or any sort of diversion. I could only try to find somewhere and some way to push my Art, Writing and Music along to fruition. 

I WAS ALSO SUBJECTED TO A HUMILIATING AND DAMAGING SUBSERVIENCE TO MY EX-WIFE WHICH DESTROYED CREATIVITY, CONFIDENCE AND SKILLS AND LEFT NO TIME FOR ART, WRITING AND MUSIC. 

THEY KNEW WHAT THEY WERE DOING, I HAD CLEARLY INDICATED WHAT WORK I WAS DOING AND I DEMONSTRATED MY MY ART MUSIC AND WRITING SKILLS. THERE WAS NAUGHT BUT MALICE AND ENVY MOTIVATING THEIR OPPOSITION.

COLLARD FAMILY VIRTUALLY UNKNOWN MUSICIANS

 

My Uncle Connie played the Chromatic Harmonica, I had a few of them when I was a child. He died, I was told in a bomber over Germany during World War Two. There is more but is it true?

My Uncle Francis, nicknamed Boo, played trumpet with famous musicians, or that is what I heard. He did have the Frank Collard band which I will look into though I read that little is known. This photo may have been posted after Francis' death.

I did not know my Uncle was only 11 years older than myself until just recently and he had died last year, too bad, I think he would have enjoyed knowing that I was musically inclined. I saw a passing reference to his work backing Lou Reid, I wonder was that the Velvet Underground Lou Reid?

In the Family Tradition, I am unknown. Charles Vincent Collard wanted to have a son or grandson who was a famous musician. 

LINDONCOLLARD.com continues to document my work.

MARIJUANA CRITIC POST: MARIJUANA CULTURE MUSIC AND MUSICIANS WERE AFFECTED AS WELL

 

MARIJUANA CRITIC

FRIDAY, 29 JANUARY 2021

MARIJUANA'S CULTURAL TRAITORS

THE STERLING SILVER PLATING WAS MOSTLY BURNED OFF THIS ORIGINAL SUPER ASYLUM RACER IN THE CHARMING ARSON PERPRETRATED BY IRELAND AND PALFRY AS THEY PROTECTED THE LOGGER CULTURE; SOOKE WAS TO BE "ONLY FOR LOGGERS".

THE MARIJUANA CULTURE IN VANCOUVER BRITISH COLUMBIA WAS SPARKING UP A VERY VERY LONG TIME AGO WITH ART, LITERATURE AND MUSIC AS WELL  AS THE HASHISH AND GRASS.

PEOPLE WHO WANTED TO DISREGARD THE CREATIVE ASPECTS OF THE NEW MARIJUANA CULTURE WERE FOCUSSED ON THE MONEY OR FOCUSSED ON EXPLOITING THE VULNERABILITY OF THE "ILLEGAL" MARIJUANA COMMUNITY.

I WORKED IN THE JEWELLERY MANUFACTURING INDUSTRY STARTING IN 1974. WE MADE A LOT OF THE PRODUCTS FOR THE EXISTING CULTURE.

 

CHARMS AND RINGS AND PENDANTS WERE PRODUCED.  I ALSO HAD A COITERE OF NATIVE ARTIST CUSTOMERS WITH THEIR CULTURAL ARTIFACTS.

THE MARIJUANA CULTURE PEOPLE OR HIPPIES HAD BOUTIQUE STORES WHERE A LOT OF "STONER STYLED" MERCHANSISE WAS SOLD.

Boutique jewellery buyers would orfer reprofuctiond in silver.

ADVANCED METHOD JEWELlERY MANUFACTURING MET THE MARIJUANA CULTURE OVER SILVER PENDANTS AND RINGS AND EARRINGS AND BRACELETS IN THE STYLE OF THE NEW CULTURE WITH LONG HAIRED GIRLS WITH STARS IN THEIR TRESSES, UNICORNS AND DRAGONS.

I made the stars and and the moon in moonlight 10 White and innumerable castings in Silver and Gold exACTLY IN THE STYLE OF THESE PEICES.

I HAD PRODUCED MODERN COMPACT WATER PIPES, THE ANAHIALATOR, THE ASYLUM RACER AND THEN AT THE FACTORY, THE SUPER ASYLUM RACER IN GLEAMING STERLING SILVER WITH A WHITE LATEX RUBBER CORK AND FLUTED STEMMED GLASS BOTTOMS TO HOLD THE WATER.

IN 1980 MY HOME, FACTORY EQUIPMENT AND EVERYTHING ELSE WAS BURNT IN AN ARSON BY LOCAL REDNECKS. THERE WAS THEFT AS WELL.

I WAS DEVASTATED, IMPOVERISHED AND ANGUISHED AND THE MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY MOVED ON ME IN AN ACT OF CULTURAL TRAITORISM TAKING OVER STARTING IN 1980 AND CONTINUING INTO THE 2000'S.

THEY EXTORTED MY MONEY, FORCED ME TO MAKE MONTHLY PAYMENTS AND RUTHLESSLY DEFAMED AND RECKLESSLY ENDANGERED ME TO STOP MY MARIJUANA CULTURE WRITING AND MUSIC WHICH THEY SLANDERED AS CRAZY, "THINKS HE IS GOING TO BE A ROCK STAR", AND AS HATING WOMEN AND POLICE AND TRIED TO GET ME JAILED WHICH DID HAPPEN.

I HATE YOU I HATE ALL MEN, MY WIFE; I HATED THE COLLARDS SO I ATTACKED YOU, MY BROTHER'S WIFE. IF I HEAR YOU TELLING ANYONE YOU PLAY HARMONICA I WILL DISENHERIT YOU FROM YOUR FATHER'S MONEY.

TARGET HIS MUSIC; IT IS ALL HE CARES ABOUT. (COULD BE TRUE.) WHEN I WOULD PRACTICE THE NEIGHBOR LADY ENCOURAGED BY MY EX-WIFE WOULD SNEAK ON TO MY PROPERTY TO SEE IF I WAS PRACTICING SO THAT SHE COULD SEND BY-LAW AND POLICE TO INTERRUPT ME.

IN THE 1970'S  THE FAMILY MEMBERS WERE UBER HIPPIES, I WAS NEVER HOLY ENOUGH AND THEN A FEW YEARS LATER THEY WERE ATTACKING THE VALUABLE UPLIFTING ENLIGHTENING MARIJUANA CULTUREART LITERATURE AND MUSIC UNDER THE GUISE THAT IT DEMONSTRATED INSTABILITY AND DANGER.

IN 1980 MY WIFE FANCIED HERsELF TO BE AN ENTREPRENEUR POWERED BY THREATS OF DIVORCE AND SIBLING FAMILY INHERITANCE WITHDRAWL THREATS BY WOMEN WHO DID NOT EARN THE MONEY. THERE WAS NO REQUEST FOR EQUALITY, NO BUY IN, NO TRADE OFF, JUST THE BALD FACED LIE; "WOMEN ARE FASTER SMARTER AND STRONGER WE ARE TAKING OVER".

MARIJUANA CULTURE, ART, LITERATURE AND MUSIC WERE TO BE SECONDARY TO THE OVERARCHING DOCTRINE OF WOMAN'S SUPREMACY WHICH WAS TO BE ENFORCED BY THE INVOCATION OF THE POLICE STATE TO DESTROY MEN AND THE MOST VULNERABLE MEN WERE THE MEN OF THE MARIJUANA CULTURE.

JOE BIDEN INAGURATION ALL OF THE OLD STARS

There were a lot of old Stars which had frankly gotten old fat and slow.

Dave  Grohl produced a weird affected song which I had heard on Saturday Night Live.

Jon Bon Jovi did a light pop song which I think would appeal to many old Americans which is in synch with the oldest American President ever.

 Lady Gaga was old slow flat and fat.

Not nearly as old slow and fat as Garth Brooks.

Bruce Springsteen kept up the pace and did some very good acoustic guitar work as he performed the song Amazing Grace solo.

I have not ever really liked any of Katy Perry`s performances. She looked and sounded terrible.

There were other performers who were not old slow and fat but who were really terrible anyway like this review which really is not very good.

I will try to listen and comment on more of the performances at the Inauguration Concert.

Even the incredible Fireworks did not inspire me.

WOW POP POP

KITTY TRAIN-NEW YEARS-TIMES SQUARE VERSUS STEVIE NICKS SOLID GOLD

I listened to Stevie Nicks of Fleetwood Mac Fame and she was monotonous. Her performance was uninspired and not Artful. She moved ponderously. She, the band and the soloists lacked conviction, they performed half heartedly.

Granted, there was no band with Kitty Train, but the performance was stylish with a good vocal and tasteful dance moves.

Both performers were pretty chunky and then were severely over chunked by Martha Three Stallion whose style I did not like a lot.

I could not find pictures but the Video of the New Years Eve on ABC Rockin Dave Clark with Ryan Seacrest should be available.

  

ROCKET MAN RECYCLED

DAVID BOWIE'S WORK IS BEING SOLD TO BE USED IN COMMERCIALS, WHICH IS OK. 

I CANNOT SAY THAT I KNOW WHAT HE WOULD THINK.

Postscript: Now,  weeks later, there is another version of the same ad with similar music where a couple dances. This review is not of that video soundtrack.

What I can say is that the woman who sings about her sponsor in the advertisement does a perfect job of singing just like the Classic David Bowie Song ``Rocket Man`` should be sung. 

I see no harm. If you Watch TV you will probably hear it.

Here is a link to the original, which when it was released was very cool. 

My link would not Post. Google David Bowie "Rocket Man".

David Bowie - Rocket Man - YouTube

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JACK WHITE HITS THE MARK

LIVE ROCK CRITIC WAS CREATED TO FIND TELEVISED AVAILABLE TO ALL EXCELLENT LIVE ROCK PERFORMANCE.

I am pleased to declare that Jack White has done it on Saturday Night Live October 10, 2020.

The Hard Rock Bass and Drums only with a symphonic and orchestral mastery of tone and riffing expansively guitar does recreate the greatness of the Rock Band.

I remember that Jack danced as he played. I would do a similar choreography, which helps to keep time and rock the guitar on your fingers. He did not seem to use his whammy bar nor did I see him but once make an effects pedal change. White makes it happen through movement slinging the guitar on his fingertips, picking and sliding along the strings to create changes in tone and rhythm.

Jack White produced dynamic and relevant leads with an explosive onset and perfect return to the root progressions.

His voice is not up to the standard set with his guitar.